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 Dealing with your past Lovers when you're married.

DEALING WITH YOUR PAST LOVERS (EXES). 

When young people plan to settle down, most of them usually plan to be totally faithful to their spouse. Unfortunately, there are people that are so attached to their ex lovers that they find it difficult to completely break away. Somehow, they keep falling back into the arms of their ex. 

There are women that have done more intimate things with their ex than they have done with their husbands. Their exes have strong grip on them, they obey him, probably because of those deep things they've shared in the past. 

Some men wouldn't have had any record of infidelity, but their exes won't allow  them to be great. 

When it comes to matter of past lovers, the devil you know is NOT better than the angel you don't know. What  I am trying to say is that, generally, it is easier for any married person to fall into adultery with an ex than an entirely new person. It takes a lot of process to flirt with a new person in most cases, but you see an ex, one must be very careful, else, you would fall before you realise anything. That is why Satan loves to tempt people with their ex. 

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Some have fallen into adultery with their ex because of being woke. They'll say "My ex is not my enemy, why should I not be close to him/her?"

Well, it's true, your ex is not your enemy but boundary must be well defined. If you can't define the boundary, you better make your ex your enemy. Usually, people who smell what they intend not to eat end up eating it. 

Things have gone so bad lately, many homes have suffered attack, even break up, all because of interference of exes. There are men that have totally abandoned their wives and returned to their ex. Some women are still having secret affair with their ex. Some have given the pregnancy that belongs to an ex to their husband. That explains the recent trend of DNA tests resulting in fathers not being the biological father of their supposed kids. 

Let me establish this: CHEATING WITH AN EX DOES NOT START FROM THE POINT YOU HAVE SEX WITH HIM/HER. CHEATING STARTS FROM THE POINT YOU BEGIN TO CONTACT YOUR EX OR HAVE ANY KIND OF DEAL WITH YOUR EX WITHOUT THE KNOWLEDGE AND APPROVAL OF YOUR CURRENT PARTNER. 

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Let me also quickly add this for the singles, exes can be very dangerous. The more your ex, the more complications you're piling up for yourself and whomever you're marrying. If your peace matters to you,  as much as possible, minimise your ex, stop jumping from one lover to another, for the sake of your future partner and your unborn kids. 

In rare cases, we have seen where ex becomes a benefactor. But I tell you sincerely, you shouldn't be banking on keeping your ex because of getting favours from him/her. 

In the next part of this series, we'll discuss the types of exes and how to relate with them. 

Don't miss this interesting series........ See you in part 2.